Addressing the allegations

I want to address the elephant in the room.

I don’t believe that we need to over-specify when we’re discussing our own personal experiences within a movement or a market or a community. It’s a waste of precious time to come up with counter-arguments on the front end just in case anyone has an issue with your testimony. I don’t need to disclaim that these are my experiences, but I want to address something.

It is a fact that manifestation, LOA, spiritual money coaches, and concepts of that ilk bring positive results to many people’s lives. I am not against the idea or act of manifestation in the slightest. Even today, I am in a constant process of reframing my relationship to it. I believe that we are all in a constant state of co-creation, and our realities are constructed by these collective manifestations that we don’t always have control over. I believe that the universe is not actually waiting at your beck and call to deliver every single one of your whims or desires. I believe that everyone deserves enough resource (including money) to have their needs met and then some, at a level that allows us to be truly safe and expand our world as we see fit, and I acknowledge that in late-stage capitalism, and for people who live at intersections of oppression, this can be a colossal uphill battle.

What I am not for is the way white supremacy has infected the zeitgeist of manifestation and money. I am not for coaches and “manifestation experts” who sling their ideas around without even attempting to be trauma-informed or build in accommodations for neurodivergence, then make money selling these courses to an audience who’s been deceived by clever marketing and unethical sales tactics, and claim that they “manifested it, and you can too,” and if it’s not working, then you did it wrong. I am not for the people who say “your thoughts create your reality” to those with intrusive thoughts, or to trauma survivors. I am not for any “leader” who tells you that your emotions can be controlled, and that they must be “mastered” before you can access abundance.

The people I am here for are the people who have been burned by these coaches and communities, and/or are burnt out on the constant crawl towards that unknowable quantity, “stability”. I’m here for people who have reached their breaking point with money, either now or in the past, and are tired of being told that the only path to financial freedom means being an entrepreneur and hustling 24/7/365. I’m here for the NDs, the autistics, the ADHD brains who are sloughing off layers and layers of shame that have been placed on them over a lifetime because they aren’t “good at money”. I created this business because that is who I am and that has been my story for a very long time.

So, if what you’re doing is working for you, keep doing it. This space is not a space where you need to defend yourself. It’s important to me that I address the flaws of a system and how it can easily be weaponized to manipulate people. But it doesn’t mean the whole concept is broken.

However, if manifestation and the law of attraction haven't been working for you, or you feel like there's something missing to these concepts, I know how you feel, and you aren't alone. I created The Financial Witch for people like you, so you can feel less alone as you decompress and process that mindset and remove yourself from it. 

Now, if you have been following along in my last few posts, I let you in on my origins as a girlboss and how my belief in the law of attraction began to crumble when I realized I had no idea what my values were. We've established that determining your values is the first step to healing the worthiness wound, which bleeds into all areas of life, including and especially your money. But how do you actually go about finding your values? 

I realized the concept was too nebulous for me to fully grasp. I had to turn to a dictionary. What I found was just another example of the insidiousness of capitalism, because so much of the word “value” equates to “worth” and we apply these terms interchangeably to both money and whole human beings. I don't find this equation to be entirely coincidental. 

The other thing I found in the dictionary under “values” was something about a “standard of behavior.” Now that I could get behind. If I wanted to live a values-based life, I would need to have standards for my behavior, because my actions are entirely up to me and me alone. I cannot control everything that happens to me. I can't say “everything always works out in my favor,” because there's a ton of empirical evidence to the contrary. But I can control my actions. I can place standards for myself in terms of how I behave. That was one definition of values that I could really build on.